What’s the difference between empathy and sympathy? There is one, and it’s pretty important.
In brief, empathy is feeling with or alongside someone, while sympathy is feeling sorry for, which Brene Brown, research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, explores in the video below.
Brown reduces the difference between empathy and sympathy as the difference between feeling with and feeling for, calling empathy a ‘sacred space’ and a ‘choice.’
Oxford Dictionary defines sympathy as, ‘Feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else’s misfortune.’
Example of sympathy: They had great sympathy for the flood victims
If that were to become something more empathetic, it might read, ‘They could understand the range of emotions and loss experienced by the flood victims and how those emotions changed over time based on their experiences.’
Of course, empathy is a huge challenge and sustained empathy is more or less impossible. If you’re spending all of your time imagining someone else’s feelings, they become your feelings.
According to Oxford Dictionary, a key difference between empathy and sympathy is that the latter involves a degree of judgment or evaluation–that the sympathizer assumes they know what another person might feel, and then extends that emotional experience to pity, for example.
‘Empathy means ‘the ability to understand and share the feelings of another’ (as in both authors have the skill to make you feel empathy with their heroines), whereas sympathy means ‘feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else’s misfortune’ (as in they had great sympathy for the flood victims)
While the difference feels narrow, it is crucial: empathy focuses on a mutual and shared (albeit potentially asynchronous) emotional experience, whereas sympathy moves more swiftly from feeling with to feeling for.
2. Staying out of judgment
3. Recognizing emotion in other people, and then communicating that
4. Feeling with
In The Role Of Empathy In Learning, Terry Heick described the role of empathy in learning as having, “to do with the flow of both information and creativity.”
“Empathy is both a cause and an effect–the result and ongoing process of dialogic interaction with the world around us. It requires us to understand ourselves by understanding the needs and condition of those around us. It also encourages us to take collective measurements rather than those singular, forcing us into an intellectual interdependence that catalyzes other subtle but powerful tools of learning. Rarely can a response make something better; what makes something better is connection.”